Good things come to those who wait but the waiting is always easier said than done. Life has become one big waiting game that always keeps you in limbo and everyday we find ourselves waiting for something, whether it is as trivial as the stop light turning from red to green or something as essential as that job that our whole lives seem to be depending on. I have always had a problem waiting for things to happen and worrying too much that they won’t and it’s because I haven’t always been good at having the patience to wait for things to happen when they are meant to.
People sometimes misconceive having patience as procrastinating and not taking action but I believe that that misconception couldn’t be further from the truth. Patience happens to be inextricably linked with persistence with the only difference between the two being that persistence is visible and patience often is not. But just because something isn’t seen doesn’t mean it’s not there. Being persistent about something is having the tenacity to see it through and is the result of having the patience to stay the course.
As a writer I have found that patience is not only the key component to many successes in life but it’s also what the creative process is built on. No one becomes the established author or an Oscar winning actress overnight. When you want something in life to be successful you not only have to have the will to make it so but you have to have the patience to wait for it to happen. That, for me, is the hard part but I get it. We creative types would love to go from idea to stardom in no time flat but the reality is that that doesn’t always make for the long lasting success that we want. There is a reason why things that are rushed don’t usually turn out the way we want them to and we have to ponder the possibility that it’s because it was forced and because we didn’t believe in ourselves enough to wait for things to happen in their own time.
Patience is necessary. We find that we need it everyday in dealing with the people around us and in the commitments we have made to others and to ourselves. Patience is in waiting for that one person to understand you and respect you for your thoughts and your objectives. It’s waiting for everything that you’ve ever wanted for yourself to come true. Patience is even in the realization that life can not be rushed and that everything must run its own course. In appreciating life and all that it has to offer we need to learn to accept the fact that we don’t always get what we want and when we do it is almost never going to be at the very moment that we want it.
To be determined, to have focus, to have success, you must first have patience and
I must admit that my own patience is tested on a daily basis for what feels like every second of the day. Whether it is in my writing or in what I call a personal life it feels as though I am always left waiting. But I find that if you’re too busy rushing everything along in your life you never get to enjoy the journey that leads you to what it is that you want. The end result isn’t always the best part of the journey, sometimes it’s the things that happened along the way that make it all worthwhile.
The Diary: Succession of Lies (Release Date TBA)
Writing as “Jaycee Durant”