So I have been trying to figure out what it is that I have been doing wrong all this time to still not be where I should be in my career. It’s very disheartening when you realize that the person who has been standing in your way the most is you. I’ve posted here before that throughout my adult years I have suffered with bouts of depression, some worse than others, and one just recently in the beginning part of this year. I’m getting better and I’m starting to feel that drive and ambition come back but even still I think I have become somewhat lazy and I have no idea where that came from cause that has never been me.
In the past I was always that person who you couldn’t pull away from the computer or that notepad because I was always writing and working on something to further my dream but even then I think I’ve always been afraid of the submission part of things. Part of it is being scared to put myself out there but a larger part is being afraid that my work wouldn’t be seen as good enough, that I wouldn’t be good enough. And the times I do get rejected I take it really personal because I consider myself to be an extremely talented writer (which makes me wonder why I’m so scared to submit my work) and I suppose I still get offended that talent these days doesn’t seem to be enough.
I think another part of it is that when I dreamed of being a writer when I was younger and I dreamt up all the books and television shows and plays I would write I only thought of the artistry of it all. The business side of it was the part that I just completely ignored and that is the part of it that confronts me now. I have plenty of ideas and I have the words just lying dormant inside of me but what makes me anxious, what makes me fearful, what makes me downright panicked is the business side of writing.
When I think about it really, the submission process of writing is also the business side because I have to think about marketing and my numbers and stats and I have to create packets to present myself in just the right way, and sometimes I just want to write but when I think about the business of it my writing ceases up.
Sometimes it feels like an outer body experience. I can see all the potential, I can see the end game of what I want and I know the things I need to be doing to get there and I’m watching myself paralyzed by fear and sheer lack of confidence just standing there not moving. I want to scream at myself “what are you doing just standing there?” but nothing comes out and I remain still. I have to get out of this cycle because it’s the only way that I am going to see what I want become a reality. I swear I don’t mean to get in my own way.
I’m in a self-evaluation process because I know that I can’t fix the problem without analyzing and figuring out what all there is that I need to work on. I have to really evaluate where I went off track at to begin with. I am a work in progress but I have to be real with myself and truthful with myself if I expect to get myself back on track. So this is not a post excusing myself, in fact this is me realizing that I have no excuses and I can’t keep allowing myself to stand in my own way.
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3 thoughts on “I Have To Move Out of My Way”
A reflection worth having. I echo your sentiments and understand that the biggest hindrance I have to face is myself. Your post has reminded me to keep pressing forward but be honest with myself along the way.
I feel your pain. I struggled for years to decide what I needed and wanted out of life. I deal with depression and anxiety in the worst forms sometimes which in return makes me lazy. It’s like your body being in a rut but your mind isn’t. One thing I have learned is to keep pushing and stay consistent through regardless of how I feel or I won’t get anywhere. I feel like if I keep pushing it will pay off eventually and maybe a weight will be lifted. No promises but for me so far so good. Good luck on your evaluation. 🙂
Thank you. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in feeling this way and that there is someone who understands because I hear so many people say “can’t you just get over it” and it’s hard to explain to those who have never dealt with it that it is just not that simple. That no one would choose to feel that way. Thank you for your support and I am pushing through as well and hopefully it will continue. Good luck to you as well!