Making the Best Out of What You Don’t Have

If I could write a list of the things that I need to do pertaining to my writing career that is being held up due to lack of money, I’m not sure if one piece of paper would be enough.  Every time I think that I am going to be able to get some new business cards or pay my editor to edit my next novel, or hire an artists to design the cover of my next novel, I just get reminded that I never seem to have the money to do what I need to do in order to make me more money.  It seems like the things I don’t have constantly outweigh what I want.  

The other day I heard something on one of Oprah’s shows that made me think differently in regards to dwelling on what I don’t have right now.  Iyanla Vanzant was speaking about people being angry with not having what they want out of life and she said that “you have to create what you want instead of being stuck with what you don’t have.”  I realized that if I keep focusing on what little I have (or what I don’t have at all sometimes) then not only can I not take joy in the things that I am already blessed to have, but I can’t create a way to turn things around and get what it is that I do want.  

Now clearly there are just some things that you can’t do without having the benefit of money.  However, that doesn’t mean that I can’t concentrate on the things that I can do for my career that can be done with discipline and hard work.  That, I don’t need to buy, that, I already have.  So today, for every thing that you don’t have, think of how you can turn that around and create something you want.  Until tomorrow…Remember there is good in any misfortune, you just have to stop focusing on the misfortune.   

Jimmetta Carpenter

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What I Learned From Elizabeth Gilbert, Author of Eat, Pray, Love

I was watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday yesterday morning and she had Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, on for a portion of the show.  I got a lot of things from listening to her story or self-discovery.  She talked about moments of stillness and being able to listen to that voice inside ourselves that we tend to keep ignoring.  But one of the things that I was not expecting to hear was her discussing the power of saying no.  

So many times you hear people advise others that we say no too often and we end up shutting ourselves off to many opportunities that we weren’t receptive too.  But on the flip side, there are those of us who spend so much time taking care of everyone else, and being there for everyone else, that we end up taking ourselves for granted.  Elizabeth Gilbert spoke about having to learn how to say No to people and learning how to not feel guilty about it.  

We all have experienced having those around us that just literally suck the life out of us.  They probably don’t do it intentionally (although some do) but their constant need to lean on you and their constant expectation that you will always be there no matter what can drain you emotionally and eventually physically.  Sometimes we really do need to just stand up for our own emotional health and say no when we need to.  That’s not saying that we can’t ever be there for the people who need us again.  That’s saying that you have to be there for you first.  Until tomorrow…Take some time out for you and don’t feel guilty about the no’s you will have to say in order to do it.    

Jimmetta Carpenter

Writer/Editor

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