Building a Better Relationship with Your Writer Self

On my post the other day I wrote about my “marriage” to writing and my wanting to improve my relationship.  Well I wanted to share with all of you, some of the different ways that any writer can improve their relationship to their writing and become more harmonious and at ease with their craft.  I hope that some of these tips help you the way they are helping me. 

1)      Read, read, read!  Don’t forget that you have to still be a good reader too.  A writer can not be so caught up with trying to write their great work of art that they forget to read others great works of art as well.

2)      Keep a separate notebook that is just for the ideas that come to your mind sporadically.  You have to be ready to capture those thoughts at a moment’s notice because if you wait too long you can lose them (trust me I know).

3)      For all of those techno-savvy people out there who have completely given up the (seemingly) dying art of paper and pen, put down the ipad from time to time and remind yourself what it feels like to put pen to paper.  There is nothing like writing longhand to get your thoughts flowing so don’t lose sight of that.

4)      If you are a planner (like me) and you know that planning things out works better for you then don’t give into the advice that some writers will give you about writing without a plan.  That does not work for everyone and if you know that having a list of what projects you need to work on will help you get it done quicker, then make that list.  If you know that outlining will help you write that novel better and quicker then write that outline.  Good advice is only good if it actually works for you and not against you.

5)      Sign up for a writing course or a writing networking event or conference.  It gives you the opportunity to talk to and get to know other writers who may be struggling with some of the same things you are, or writers that you can help as well.  It will also give you a chance to make contacts that you will be thankful you have in the future.


I hope that something on the list above helps someone else out there other than me.  Of course what is important for every writer out there to do to have a good relationship with their writer selves is to actually write.  I hope you are all crafting some wonderful stories this weekend!


Jimmetta Carpenter


The Diary: Succession of Lies (Now Available)

Writing as “Jaycee Durant”


1 thought on “Building a Better Relationship with Your Writer Self”

  1. Great advice. It’s hard to let go of electronics and get back to basics sometimes so thanks for reminding me. My reading time has been sucked up by keeping up with all the social media stuff it seems nec for a writer to be involved in – aagghh.. And books & writing are so much more fun! Where is my pencil?
    Keep up the good work 🙂

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