February 2026 – Write 2 Be

I just need to get something off my chest so bear with me. I have a serious issue with people who find joy in kicking someone when they are down. You know that person who likes to remind you that you need them and that you’re not doing so great at any particular moment in your life. I never understand what those people get out of taking pleasure in someone else’s struggles. It’s even harder when those people are the ones that you have to call family.

Family is supposed to uplift you and support you to motivate you and remind you that it doesn’t matter that you’re struggling because there is always something to look up to. They are not supposed to make you feel even lower than you are. They aren’t supposed to make you feel like nothing. They aren’t supposed to dismiss your feelings as if they aren’t valid simply because they lack the emotional capacity to empathize with them.

These types of people are toxic and most of them are extreme narcissists. To creative people, who are highly sensitive, like me, they can be soul sucking. No matter how hard you try to not let their toxicity into your bubble, their toxic energy still somehow manages to seep through. Boundaries do not exist for these toxic individuals, and they don’t respect other people’s feelings.

When you’ve worked so hard to distance yourself from toxic people like this, even family, it’s a huge struggle. It’s even harder when you’re in an unfortunate situation where you need any and all help available, including from said toxic people who love to make sure that you never forget that they had to help you for any reason. It takes a toll on your mental health to be in the orbit of someone who takes pleasure in seeing you fail and in the knowledge that you need their help on even the smallest level.

For me, as an empath, it’s very hard to exist in a world where the people who are the ones who are supposed to be in your corner and be supportive of you (because they’re family, it kind of goes with the territory) are the ones you can’t trust to share your dreams with and that you can’t be yourself around. When your family member is the one that makes you feel like you aren’t allowed to take up space in this world it can be disheartening and it makes you doubt yourself (even more than you already do).

I wish my circumstances were different at the moment and I’m praying that they change soon but right now I struggle with how to not let that toxic person win. How to make sure that I block their negativity out and make just as much of a conscious effort to find the joy in even the smallest of things as the effort they put in to making sure that I feel as miserable as they can make me feel. I’ll admit that because I feel things so deeply, it is hard to tune that person out but I’m working on it and hopefully they will not end up getting the better of me.

I guess that’s all I have to share with you for today. I feel a little better now that I have gotten to say some of the things that I’ve been needing to say for a while now. With everything heavy that’s already going on in the world right now, it makes things even harder to have to struggle against people in your own orbit that you can’t escape. I haven’t really felt safe enough to be able to say it. I figured that maybe there was someone else having to fight their own toxic people in their life and maybe they needed to know that they weren’t alone in that fight.

Until next time… #BeMindful #BeFearless #BeAuthentic

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