Complaining Never Solves Anything

“Instead of complaining that the rosebush is full of thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses.” 


The other day my daughter was having a particularly moody day and she seemed to be complaining about everything.  I was really tired of hearing her complain but she gets it honestly because I am also a big time complainer and whiner (still working on getting better at that).  So I decided to convey to her what I had learned over the years of my life and am still in the process of learning as I struggle to curtail my need to complain on a regular basis.  I told her that if she stops complaining and whining about the things that she has no control over, she could actually start to realize and appreciate the benefits of what it is she’s complaining about.  Essentially if she changes her attitude about things she may find that she actually enjoys them or at the very least can learn from them.  

I only wish that I had realized that a long time ago.  Even now, while I don’t complain about things nearly as much as I used to, I still have a problem with feeling the need to complain my way through a hard time.  At the end of the situation the only thing that I really managed to do was waste a lot of time that I can’t ever get back.  I took so much extra time that I didn’t have to work my way through whatever problem it was that didn’t need to be thrown away and it didn’t erase the problem, it only made it take longer to get through.  

Being a mom teaches you so many lessons that sometimes never really sink in until you are having those teachable moments with your own children.  More than likely your parents tried to have those same teachable moments with you and they just didn’t stick.  Attitude has a lot to do with how situations are managed and how you deal with them.  If you can change your attitude, you can ultimately change your situation.    

I have discovered that complaining about any given problem only gives that problem power over your life and over your circumstances.  So in order to take that power away from the problem, you’ve got to stop complaining about it and in a sense dwelling over it.  Once you do stop and change your attitude about the situation you will find that you can get through the problem in a more positive and productive way that won’t waste a whole lot of time that you don’t have.  My daughter said that she understood what I was trying to say (but she’s 8 so I believe it went in one ear and out the other) but even if she didn’t get it while I was saying it, I hope that it will sink in eventually.  Until tomorrow…Don’t complain your way through your struggles, smile your way through it and it will be over before you know it.  

Jimmetta Carpenter


The Diary: Succession of Lies (Now Available)

Writing as “Jaycee Durant”


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