To Thine Own Self Be True

To Thine Own Self Be True 1

Let’s talk today about checking in with yourself! Sometimes in life things can get very crazy. You’re busy taking care of the kids, taking care of your significant others, you’re checking in with your friend’s needs, your tending to your business and making sure your customers are always satisfied, and if you have a day job then you’re making sure your boss is satisfied as well. While all of that is very important to maintain, all of that would get neglected if we forget to take care of ourselves.

It took a long time for me to learn this, to even learn how to love myself it took more than half of my life so I still struggle with making sure I’m good. I have to have conversations with myself at times to make sure I’m okay and that I’m happy and that I’m at peace. That doesn’t always mean that I have everything I want or even half of what I need. It just means that I have to make sure that no matter what crazy thing is going on, what things would normally stress me out, that I have to have peace within myself to be able to deal with everything going on around me.

What I am learning, the older I get is that even when you have the things you swear up and down that you need, if you don’t have happiness and peace within you that having those things means absolutely nothing. There’s nothing wrong with having alone time with yourself. Time to reflect on things, to do some reading, to do some writing, time to meditate and talk with God, time to take yourself out on a date and just be comfortable being with yourself. Every now and then you have to remember to have a conversation with yourself and to make sure that while you are trying to take care of everything and everyone else that you are also taking care of you.

 

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I Am Not a Yes Person

Let me be myself

I get so sick of people trying to force me to be inside this box.  I’m supposed to just go along with other people’s opinions and what they say.  I’m supposed to just agree on everything because a group of people as a whole agreed.

I AM NOT A YES PERSON! I used to be.  I used to go along for the sake of going along and I used to just go with whatever the majority said just to keep the peace, just to be the easy one.  Well I am not that person and I refuse to pretend to be.  I am typically the one the goes against the grain and I don’t usually follow suit because my opinion is just usually different from what someone else’s is.  I just see things in a different way than most people do and I used to apologize for that.

But I will not apologize anymore for being who I am and for having the nerve to not think like most other people.  I hate being persecuted when I express a difference of opinion or being told that I’m throwing “bitch fits” because I don’t agree with you.  It makes me just want to silence myself and not say anything.  That’s all I have to say today.  Some personal things happened and threw me off course for the day but thank you all for listening to my rant.  Just wish people would let me be me!

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Sometimes It Is Risky to Be Yourself

risk of not being yourselfI can think of about a dozen people who I admire.  People whose success I would love to have. People whose life seems so ideal and who I wish I could be like in one way or another.  I think that we all have those days where there is someone who we wouldn’t mind trading places with, even for a day.  However, we can only ever be ourselves and we have to learn to be the best person that we can be.

People always declare how you should be an original version of yourself and not a bad imitation of someone else.  You’re supposed to achieve the level of success you want by remaining true to who you are and not copying anyone else.  I definitely believe that a person should always be who they are but being original can be tricky.

There is always the risk that someone won’t be accepting of you or what you do and as a writer, while it is not important for everyone to like you or your writing you have to be accepted on some level to be successful.  The thing is, I am me, I am who I am, love me or hate, take it or leave it, and I won’t apologize for it.  However, sometimes there are days when I feel like being myself is either not good enough for people or that people just can’t handle who I really am.

I know you’re not supposed to care about who accepts you and who doesn’t but what if I do care?  What if I want people to care about my words and my feelings and what I’m going through?  What if I want people to listen to what I have to say and what my ideas are and not dismiss them as if they don’t matter?  What if I want people to accept me, flaws and all, and stop wishing that I was something that I am not?

Writers are typically thought of as different, and weird, and isolated but that doesn’t mean we want to be.  I am definitely not like a lot of other people and I have spent a large part of my adolescent years trying to be what everyone else wanted me to be, never really being who I was.  Sometimes it seems like in finally being who I am and not trying to be some version of somebody else I end up standing alone a lot of the time.  I wonder whether or not I should have just kept being the copy everyone seemed to like better.  Have you ever felt like being yourself just wasn’t good enough?

 

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