Is Practicality Really Just a Sugarcoated Way of Disguising Our Fears?

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I listened to a commencement speech that actor Jim Carey gave at Maharishi University of Management that was very inspiring. He said something that really resonated with me. He said that “So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality—what we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect so we never dare to ask the universe for it.” When I heard that I thought of how true that statement was.

I think that there are a lot of people out there who stay in a position where they don’t really want to be, with claims of simultaneously working on going for their dreams, when all they are truly displaying is their fear of moving forward. I know that I sometimes wonder if I should have continued doing a regular 9 to 5 type of job and focus on my writing career at night until I got a stable footing to do the writing full time. I have various people, friends and associates, some who understand first-hand about the vision that I have because their vision is not far off from mine for their own lives, tell me that I need to go back to the regular 9 to 5 thing to get myself on even better footing. I won’t say that I didn’t think about it (heavily) but I truly feel that I would be doing myself, my art, and my daughter a great disservice if I did that.

Now of course this means that you have to know who you are and know exactly what will and will not work for you because there are some people who can do both simultaneously and make it work extremely well. Their focus is split but yet somehow still all there. I know that for myself that was never going to work out well for long. In actuality it didn’t work which is why I didn’t continue on that way.

Another thing Jim Carey said in his speech was that “You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.” I suppose that in that way I have never been fearful. I knew that I would never be able to be happy staying in a position, doing a job that I loathed simply to make an attempt at doing what I love, all the while not being able to dedicate my entire focus to that dream. For me, it was more important to be happy and struggle to make my dreams happen than to live comfortably and be miserable and neglect my dream.

I know that it seems crazy to some, hell most days it seems crazy to me, but I can’t explain how freeing it is to be able to devote my full attention to that of making my dreams a reality and how much pride I take in teaching my daughter that the sacrifices she will eventually make for her dreams will be worth it in the long run. I want her to know that it is okay to dive head first into the life that she wants and that she shouldn’t spend one moment of it (unless she wants to of course) doing something that she can’t put her whole heart into.

I think I will remind myself of Jim Carey’s words the next time I start to question the decisions that I have made to move towards my career in writing. If I am in fact going to fail (which is only really a stepping stone to success anyway) then I might as well be failing at something that I love to do, that I am driven to do, that I can put my whole heart into. I would much rather spend my life working on achieving what matters most to me than spend it helping someone else achieve what matters most to them. I can’t build my own dream up if I am spending the majority of my time building up someone else’s.

 

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What’s The Worst That Could Happen?

“Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”
~Leon Joseph Suenens 

I am typically an overly cautious person who has to literally think of every single positive and negative before saying yes or no to anything, usually ignoring my first instincts.  I tend to talk myself out of wonderful opportunities and rationalize it with legitimate excuses (lack of money, or no time) that hold me back from doing a lot of things that I would love to do.  I have found myself wondering lately, what if I just said yes to every opportunity that came my way.  I mean what’s the worst that could really happen?  

Now I don’t mean literally to just anything because I’m not in my early twenties with no responsibilities and no one to be held accountable for.  I mean opportunities that I would normally find any reason that seems legitimate to say no to.  I think about the movie Jim Carey played in called Yes Man and even though he had some not so good experiences in saying yes to everything, he had some really good ones too, some life changing experiences.  I guess I will never know what it is I’m missing if I just keep finding an excuse to say no.  

So I think that I am going to challenge myself for the year 2012 to say Yes to any opportunity that comes my way (within reason of course).  I am not going to let what I don’t have stop me from exploring what it is I could have if I just said Yes.  Now I don’t know how effective this is going to be because I don’t think I have ever done anything without giving it an excessive amount of thought but I sure am going to try to live up to this challenge.  After all, what do I really have to lose?  Until tomorrow…What do you think would happen if you just said yes to your next opportunity? 

 

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Visualize That You Are Already There

“See things as you would have them be instead of as they are.”

~Robert Collier 

There are people who say that you become what you believe.  So it’s simple, right?  If you visualize something you want in your life, then you will eventually achieve it.  However, it is difficult for a lot of people to believe in things that have yet to be seen; to believe that what you visualize could actually be tangible.  

We are told to step out on faith.  We believe that through God all things are possible and we stay true to that (for the most part), but we can’t see God either.  So just as we blindly trust in God to always be there for us and guide us in the right direction why are we not so trusting in our own instincts and our own belief in ourselves?  Why is it that we can’t trust that what we envision for our lives is not what we can actually have? 

In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, Jim Carey said that before he made it big he would drive around and he would visualize what he wanted for his life and he would envision that he actually had those things but that they were just temporarily out of his reach at that moment.  That’s an ingenious way to look at things because in reality, nothing that any of us wants for ourselves is impossible.  What takes the possibility out of succeeding in our goals is the lack of determination and persistence at going after them because as Jim Carey also noted in his interview, visualizing does nothing if there is no work done to obtain that vision.  

When you think about what you want your level of success to be and what you can achieve, you should not set those standards according to what others may be thinking your level should be.  Your calling in life has nothing to do with anyone else but what you see yourself doing and what you see yourself achieving.  Visualizing your goals and not just the possibilities but the realities can allow you to see that they are right within your grasp, if only you would just reach out your hands and grab a hold of them.  

So the next time you start hearing yourself say you wish you could just achieve this or that and you find yourself feeling as if there are nothing but what ifs hanging over your head, just stop and visualize that you are already wherever it is that you want to be and that you already have the things that you wish to have.  It’s a lot better then thinking that it will never happen.  Until next time…Grab onto the image of success that’s right in front of you instead of the possibility of failure!

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