Don’t Over Plan Your Way Out of Opportunities

Missed Opportunities

I woke up today and realized something. I waste entirely too much time planning. I have always been a planner, one who has to have a list for everything and everything in its place before I go for the end goal. When I was younger it worked for me and my love for being the list maker and the consistent planner grew. But as I got older the plans and the lists began to hinder me because what I never accounted for in all my planning and goal setting was life just unfolding as it was going to, as it was inevitably meant to.

I have a tendency to plan so thoroughly that by the time I am done with the plan the opportunity to actually follow through with any of those plans has long passed me by. I will think of something, have a vision for something if you will, and by the time I have worked through all the lists and plans it ends up being too late and someone else has presented something to the world far too similar to mine for me to move ahead with it.

It’s like the story where the man is waiting to be rescued from the sinking boat he’s on and every person that is sent to rescue him he tells them that he is waiting on God to rescue him and to take someone else. When he drowns he asks God why didn’t he save him and God tells him that he sent three different people to rescue him and he refused them. Essentially he sent the opportunity that he needed and he missed it. I feel like I might have missed far too many opportunities that were sent my way because it didn’t fit with the plan, or undoubtedly because I hadn’t finished planning for that opportunity and I was blinded to what was presenting itself right in front of me.

For example, quite a long time ago I had an idea for a show about women living their lives behind prison bars and about what they go through, how they get treated, how they maneuver their new lives. I started making plans and lists but it was never quite as perfect as I needed it to be and before I knew it I was hearing about this new show on Netflix, “Orange is the New Black” and (No, no one stole my idea, I never communicated it to anyone else) I watched it and felt deflated as I saw what I had been planning for unfold from someone else’s imagination. It was my own fault and my own neurosis that kept me from what could’ve been a breakthrough opportunity had I only not wasted so much time trying to make it perfect.

I say all this to say that if you too are like I was, like I have been, stop wasting so much time trying to make everything just right, and planning everything through to a tee. I’m not saying don’t plan at all, or don’t have your lists. I’m saying don’t focus so much on the lists and the plans that you forget the goal, the vision, and so you don’t miss the opportunities that can come your way while you’re busy planning. Sometimes the opportunities can be so small that if you blink you’ll miss it so pay attention to what’s in front of you before your lists and plans are all that you end up with. Until next time… plan less, live more!

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Published in: on March 16, 2016 at 11:02 AM  Leave a Comment  
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The Downside of Being a Constant Planner

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So it’s not a secret to anyone who knows me or who reads my blog regularly that I am a notorious planner. I am seriously one of those people who does not like to deviate from the set schedule and due to that I usually miss out on some spontaneous things that could provide me with unplanned on blessings and opportunities. Now last year I had my plans but I tried to be a little more relaxed about sticking to them and perhaps be a tad bit more spontaneous with my time. Well it didn’t really work out so well for me last year because I think I just got too relaxed.

So this year my plan was to not only make my plans for my goals and projects but I read constantly about how important it is to create a schedule for how your day unfolds which of course includes (mainly) my writing time. So I even did that. So here’s the thing with creating a schedule where you follow point by point of what to do at certain times, it doesn’t always quite work out how you plan it. The downside to being someone like me who is a person who has to have things planned out and very routine is that life is very seldom routine nor can it be maticulously planned out.

I will tell you that every time something didn’t go as planned last year it threw me even further off course and got me so off track but it did teach me something. That there is absolutely nothing wrong with someone who wants to plan out everything, or at least everything that is important and on your goal list, but you just have to know how to not be completely thrown off track and devastated when something goes diffrently than how you planned it. I learned that I can’t be so opposed to change or something that’s not routine, that it leaves me completely dumbfounded when life throws change right in my face and says to hell with my routine.

This first full week of the New Year was planned it out. I had it laid out when I was supposed to work on what and how much time would be dedicated to each task and sad to say that the first days of this week have all gone differently then how I planned it out. Between the weather or just simple circumstance, all of my plans got turned into new unexpected ones that wouldn’t have been my choice. But I have not let it derail me or throw me off course and I readjusted, and pretty well if I don’t say so myself.

I do think that it is funny or odd how us creative types who love to be free with our emotions and words and our art are sometimes so in need of the structure of strategic planning and scheduling. I suppose because our art is in many ways a little chaotic, we have to find ways to, in our minds, structure that creative chaos. I suppose even in us trying to structure our creativity we can’t forget that little bit of chaotic freedom that is still necessary.

 

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Published in: on January 6, 2015 at 5:01 PM  Comments (1)  
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God Called One of His Angels Home Today

“What we are is God’s gift to us.  What we become is our gift to God.” 

~Eleanor Powell 

I had something completely different in mind to blog about today but when my best friend Ms. L called me with some tragic news that took place in her family I was moved to write something totally different.  A 38 year old woman is no longer in this world today due to a heart attack that no one saw coming and obviously (because of her age and good health) could not have been predicted.  Ms. L had just spoken to her last night and she was said to have been lively and energetic, without any sign of something being wrong.  Then she was just gone.  

Now while I did not know this person personally I feel sadness for Ms. L and her family and the immediate family of the person they lost.  Mostly I feel such sadness for her 8 year old little girl who was unfortunate enough to be the one to find her because she had no idea (clearly) that this would be her last Christmas with her mother.  This is a painful reminder of the fact that none of us are promised tomorrow.  

I find myself constantly telling myself that I will start really living my life tomorrow, or next week, or next year, after I have everything mapped out.  Today I realized the problem with that way of thinking.  We don’t know what life we have left on this earth and because of that we have to start living that life.  I’m not dismissing the act of planning what it is that you want to do in life (I don’t think I could stop planning if I tried) as well as what you want out of it.  However, all of that planning should not go to waste by forgetting to live out those plans before we lose our chance to.  

And for those of you out there who have unspoken words that you think you have all this time left to say, say them now because none of us know if we will have another time to say them.  Until tomorrow…Never take for granted the life that you have. 

 

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Planning Means Nothing Without Action

“Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.”

~ Napoleon Hill 

Someone told me the other day that you only get good at what you do, so if you do nothing then that’s what you’ll be good at.  Now granted that he was telling me this in reference to the suicides that the guys in the gym had me doing yesterday but I’ve been thinking a lot about how this applies to a lot of things in our everyday lives.  How many hours of the day do we waste doing nothing?  

We spend time planning what we are going to do but then lay around trying to figure out how to carry out our plan.  Why is it that we can’t just cut out all of the time we waste planning for months on end, instead just jumping right into action?  Now of course there has to be a plan, so I’m not saying that planning in general is a waste.  What I am saying is that sometimes we can get so completely wrapped up in the planning stages (and believe me, I do it all the time myself) that we seemingly become inactive.  

We get excited about our plans and try to make sure that all the details of those plans are ironed out.  But we only can be good at we do, so if we do nothing (but plan) then that is what we will continue to be good at.  My message to you all today is to go take those plans that you’ve got hidden in your desk drawer, or tucked away in a box, or saved in a file that you don’t touch often, and put them into action.  Until next time…Don’t just be someone who plans to make things happen! 

 

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Published in: on December 15, 2011 at 9:13 PM  Comments (1)  
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It’s National Novel Writing Month Time!

Regrettably I did not write any blog posts last week but it was for a good reason.  I was making sure that I had everything prepared for National Novel Writing Month, which starts tomorrow, and I was mapping out my plan on how to go about achieving my maximum word count per day so that I can reach that goal of 50,000 words by the end of the month.  This will be the third year (I think) that I have done this and although many might think that it should be easier the more often that I do it, it most certainly is not.  Especially since this year my story is a little different for me.  I am stepping out of my typical comfort zone and writing a story that is not in the genre that I have experience in writing (which is typical mainstream fiction) but one that I would like to definitely gain some experience in (mystery, suspense, with a little romance for good measure).  This year this will be a little more challenging for me, but then again I always like to be challenged.  So I thought to maintain my blog during November instead of completely abandoning it, that I would blog about my NaNoWriMo experience as I go along.  I hope that you will follow along in my journey this year and perhaps even go sign up this year and take the plunge yourself.  Well I better go make sure that I have all last minute details of my characters ironed out before tomorrow.  Until next time…Start planning, you have a novel to write too! 

 

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