Don’t Throw in the Towel Too Soon

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.”

~Richard L. Evans 

Did you ever wonder if you gave up on something that you wanted too soon?  Sometimes we hang in there so long that we start to get the feeling that maybe we just weren’t meant to achieve that goal or dream we long for.  We start to become doubtful and discouraged, and to put it bluntly, we get impatient.  We forget (at least I know I do) that there is not a specific time table on when your dreams can come true.  More importantly we forget that sometimes we have to put in our dues and struggle to get to the point of our destination.  We have to exhibit perseverance and not be too quick to throw in the towel.  Remember that if it is in your heart to accomplish your goals and you were given a purpose then it will all be worth the wait in the end.  Nothing that is worth having has ever come easy and with great struggles there are also even greater rewards.  Don’t give up on your dreams.  They are more than likely right around the corner and well within your grasp.  Until tomorrow…Don’t throw in the towel just yet!

 

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A Lesson in Losing Gracefully

“I get it now; I didn’t get it then.  That life is about losing and about doing it as gracefully as possible…and enjoying everything in between.”

~Mia Farrow 

You know as a parent you only hope that each talk that you have with your child makes an impression, but more importantly that it makes the right impression.  You hope that you communicate the right thing (what you intended) and not that they only hear the opposite of what you are saying.  I guess most of us are all winging it in the parent department because the fact is that the rules keep changing with every generation that comes along.      

Last night I found myself having to explain to my daughter (probably for the hundredth time), after she started pouting because I beat her in a video game, that it is important to know how to be a graceful loser.  Her first response was ‘huh?’ and she clearly didn’t understand what that meant (she’s 8 so that’s understandable).  She said that she always wins that game and didn’t want her record as champion to be erased.  I reminded her that she’s not going to always be able to win and when she does lose at something she needs to learn how to do it gracefully and without pouting about it.  She claimed that she understood but I could tell by the pout that she failed to remove from her face that she didn’t.  

So without taking away her determination to always be a winner (because she’s going to need that in this world) I sat her down and tried to impress upon her that we all want to be winners at everything that we do but it is impossible to win at everything, all of the time.  I reinforced that while it is important that she always tries to do her best at every single thing that she does, that she shouldn’t get discouraged, or throw a tantrum because she doesn’t win.  

Now I don’t know how good a job I did at making her understand the art of losing gracefully (seeing as though I’m still trying to master that myself) but I can only hope that I didn’t suppress her determination to succeed.  Lord only knows that my mother never talked to me about the art of losing or winning with grace so I am really just praying that I’m saying all of the right things.  Until tomorrow…What lessons are you winging it on when it comes to your children? 

 

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Let’s Talk About Courage (Pt. 2)

“One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential.  Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency.  We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.”

~Maya Angelou 

I think that creative people are very special.  I say this not just because I am a creative person and that I surround myself with nothing but people who are also immersed in their own creativity.  I say this because being someone who’s life’s purpose centers around the creative arts is not really something that one can learn or that can even be taught if it is not ingrained somewhere deep inside of them.  Take a singer for instance.  You can give someone vocal lessons and the techniques and coaching that they may need to make their voice better and stronger, but if that natural talent and ability was never there in the first place, if it did not live deep inside of them, then it would never be able to be taught. 

There’s something else that lives inside of a person who is creative at heart, courage.  I think that being a creative person takes massive amounts of courage; the courage to withstand rejection, the courage to be patient and never give up while waiting for your turn, the courage to step out there and take the risk of being rejected to begin with, the courage to sacrifice comfort ability to serve your purpose no matter how crazy your loved ones may think you are.  

It takes courage to be your true self even if it is not what is expected of you or what is perceived as something that will be a more immediate success.  So today’s message is for all of you out there who are fulfilling your creative aspirations and enduring people looking at you or questioning your choices as if you’ve lost all of your senses.  Keep wearing that badge of courage because in the end it will pay off and you will be glad that you remained true to yourself.  Until tomorrow…“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the resistance to give in to that fear.” (Mark Twain)  

 

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Let’s Talk About Courage (Pt. 1)

I saw Ms. L’s post tonight and I just thought “what courage”.  She shared her talents with the world today and she was so brave and fearless.  I want to let her know that her courage has inspired me and I hope that once you guys click on the link to her post that it inspires you too.  Ms. L, if you were scared, you sure didn’t show it.  This quote is for all of the people out there that could use a little video courage to do what it is that scares you to death. 

“Courage is the art of being the only one who knows you’re scared to death.”

~Harold Wilson 

 

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Planning Means Nothing Without Action

“Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.”

~ Napoleon Hill 

Someone told me the other day that you only get good at what you do, so if you do nothing then that’s what you’ll be good at.  Now granted that he was telling me this in reference to the suicides that the guys in the gym had me doing yesterday but I’ve been thinking a lot about how this applies to a lot of things in our everyday lives.  How many hours of the day do we waste doing nothing?  

We spend time planning what we are going to do but then lay around trying to figure out how to carry out our plan.  Why is it that we can’t just cut out all of the time we waste planning for months on end, instead just jumping right into action?  Now of course there has to be a plan, so I’m not saying that planning in general is a waste.  What I am saying is that sometimes we can get so completely wrapped up in the planning stages (and believe me, I do it all the time myself) that we seemingly become inactive.  

We get excited about our plans and try to make sure that all the details of those plans are ironed out.  But we only can be good at we do, so if we do nothing (but plan) then that is what we will continue to be good at.  My message to you all today is to go take those plans that you’ve got hidden in your desk drawer, or tucked away in a box, or saved in a file that you don’t touch often, and put them into action.  Until next time…Don’t just be someone who plans to make things happen! 

 

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A Brief Note For the Day

Okay I am going to be really brief today.  I really wanted to talk about success today but after the suicides I did in the gym this morning, followed by the hour on the treadmill, and coupled with the weights on top of that, my body is completely tired.  But I didn’t want to let the day go by without posting anything at all so I found this wonderful quote that I wanted to share with you all.  Hope it speaks to you like it spoke to me. 

“If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian angel.”
~Jospeph Addison 

Until tomorrow…Be blessed!

 

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No Shortcuts

We all seek something meaningful out of life.  We have a sense of purpose that is sometimes beyond all rationality.  And when it seems like it will take forever for us to reach that destination that we are striving to get to, we all sometimes wish that we could just wake up one day and be there, right where we feel we need to be in life.  Unfortunately life does not work that way.  Or maybe it’s fortunate for us that it doesn’t.  

I was watching my soap opera today (Young and the Restless) and something was said on there that really struck a chord with me.  What good is reaching your destination without having the experience of getting there?  What good is it, it means nothing, and you learn nothing?  I never thought of it like that.  

If I were to just wake up one day and have it all handed to me, everything that I want in this life, without having the struggle of actually getting to those proud and joyful moments, then would it mean as much?  Without all of the blood, sweat, and tears put into making my dreams come true, would they mean as much and would I work just as hard to hold onto them?  I can say that I would but I don’t know that.  

Sometimes it is the struggle of the journey that makes the end result worth every bit of hardship that you went through.  Sometimes there are no shortcuts in life, and I am discovering (though it took me a while to realize) that taking the long way to your destination can sometimes be the best thing you could ever do to satisfy your purpose.  Until tomorrow…Don’t always go looking for the shorter way around things.

 

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Lessons We Can Learn From Our Children

It’s easy for us as parents to get annoyed with children who just keep pestering you until they get their way, and to get frustrated with their complete disregard for danger or consequences.  Sometimes what can also get on our nerves is when children go from one activity to the next as if it is their money that they are wasting on that particular activity.  However, we as parents can learn a lot from our children and their sometimes annoying behavior.  

Children have such persistence and resilience within them.  Their fearlessness allows them to try a multitude of things without the thought of failure.  What we see as their indecisiveness and constant change of activities should be acknowledged as them trying to find what interests they are better suited for so that they can master what they are truly good at.  Children are really good teachers sometimes and perhaps we should take a few pages from their book.  

If we didn’t think so much about the failures that we might encounter, we may be more inclined to seek out more adventures and endeavors.  If we were as persistent as our children to get what it is that we want out of life, perhaps we might learn to always go after what it is that we want and to never settle for less then what we deserve.  

Just imagine what we could do in this world if we followed the words that we often tell our children; to always go after what you want and never let anything get in your way; to figure out what your purpose is and then be the best that you can be at it; and to never be so afraid to fail that you never try to begin with.  Until tomorrow…What lessons could you learn from your children? 

 

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Everyone’s Path is Different

Okay I know I should be typing away, working on the next chapter in my novel, or beginning to outline the next novel, or something of the creative nature.  But it’s Sunday and I tend to get a little relaxed on this particular day of the week.  I happened to get caught up in watching a marathon of this TV show called Life After which focuses on certain celebrities who were really popular and just seemingly fell off the map.  

It was interesting because as someone who intends to be involved in every aspect of the arts (because my talents are not limited to just writing) and the media culture I like to see the people who have done it before and done it successfully and some who haven’t.  I also like to discover that the perception that I’ve had of some of these actresses, actors, and singers have not been accurate.  I like discovering that some of these entertainers are not the diva’s or jerks that they came off as, and to top that off, that some of them were actually really smart and successful business minded people.  They do what they are good at and they have created empires out of their talent.  This is something that I aspire to do as well.  

I have always wondered what it would have been like if I had a mother who was supportive of all of my talents (in addition to writing, I can act and sing) and artistic endeavors.  Would I have been able to become the childhood star that I sometimes daydreamed about becoming?  I look at some of the stars that were those childhood entertainers and how it seemed to have hindered them more-so than help them, and wonder would that have been my fate too.  Although there are those stars who were childhood stars and are still rising today.  I suppose no one ever really knows what could have been.  

Watching the show Life After today, whereas in the past, I might have envied them and their success at such an early age, today I was just reminded that everyone’s path is paved a certain way for many reasons.  I walked the path that I was meant to walk and I will have my turn and I will have the chance to follow the lessons of those who have maintained their success as well as gain knowledge in where others may have fallen short.  See television can be very inspiring in many different ways.  Until tomorrow…What’s inspiring you today? 

 

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What We Take Away From Our Childhood

This is going to be short (I hope) but I felt that I needed to share this today.  I was talking to Ms. L. earlier today and we were talking about (in short) expectations and what we will and will not accept from people, or as far as standards, period.  I had an epiphany in the middle of the conversation and it was something that I had always known deep down inside but had never brought myself to say out loud where someone else would actually hear it.  Now I don’t want to get too far into detail because it’s a little too personal but it had to do with things that were carried over from my childhood.  

Parents we must watch what we say to our children, but more importantly, what we don’t say to them.  I hear and read stories about children being bullied in schools, young girls becoming promiscuous, or children just acting like they have no respect for any adult, and when you actually listen to what they have to say you realize that the shortcomings are sometimes within the parents.  In my conversation with Ms. L I remembered about all of the things that my mother said to me and mostly what she didn’t say to me.  Those words, and those lack of words still live deeply within me today and they have affected my choices and my decisions and sometimes the rough situations I found myself in were a result of what I wasn’t told and shown when I was younger.  

I know we teach our children to be independent and that the belief has to come from them that they are smart, and beautiful, and that they are worth more than the hand they are sometimes dealt, and that they don’t have to just settle for what seems to be okay when they could have better.  But children need to be told this, and they need to be told constantly because it stays with them.  How many times do you hear when someone tells you they are the way they are because that’s what they were taught and brought up to know and do.  Now when they are speaking of something good and respectable we congratulate their upbringing, but we forget that that answer applies to those that do things that are not respectable as well.  

The children out here being bullied by other, or worse, bullying others and being promiscuous and disrespectful are doing what they are taught, and what was instilled in them somewhere.  Either they aren’t being told that they deserve better or they aren’t being made to believe it.  Our childhood does stick with us into our adulthood and while you quite possibly should leave some childish things in the past, the things that are ingrained in you, they stick, whether we want them to or not.  That’s my thought for today and I hope that someone gets something out of this.  Until tomorrow…Let your children know that they are worth, and deserve the very best! 

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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