Where There’s A No There’s a Yes Right Around The Corner

Rejection is a part of the process of becoming a successful writer.  I mean unless you have a lot of connections and you know all of the people you need to know to be placed right where you want to be in your career then you are pretty much starting at the bottom of the barrel.  That means that you will more than likely be rejected more times than you would care to count.  Now if you have nerves of steel and can stare adversity in the eye with a straight face then you will have no problem forging ahead right out of the pile of rejection letters that you are likely to receive before you become that top selling author you desire to be.  

However, if you are anything like me, where being rejected makes you rethink every decision you ever made and has you constantly second guessing yourself, then this business (writing) is going to take some getting used to and quite frankly a lot more of a backbone.  I’m not talking about having the talent for writing, that’s only about 20% of being a successful writer.  It’s the other 80% that takes diligence and determination to really make it as a writer.  Now I’ve always been afraid of the rejection, and with writing it’s so much of it, but I know that I can’t give up on my dream.  

I was watching an up and coming author who was on the Anderson show yesterday (Amanda Hocking) and she spoke of how she had been rejected at least a thousand times before she went the route of self publishing in which she sold over a million copies on her own and then was eventually picked up by a major publishing house.  At first I was taken aback by the amount of rejection she endured but then I was just in awe of how she powered through it and moved her own career forward and look where she is now, on a nationally broadcasted talk show talking about her books.  

So from now on I am not going to be discouraged by my rejection letters (I have a small stack growing on my desk) and I am not going to doubt myself every time someone decides to pass on an article.  I am not going to stop at one rejection, but rather power through and press on until someone gives me the yes that I know I deserve to hear.  Of course when I get my media company up and running I may not even need someone’s yes, I’ll just create my own.  Until tomorrow…Don’t let rejection stop you when there’s a yes right around the corner!

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Someone’s Always Watching You

I was told today that I was a motivating source to someone who I hadn’t even realized was paying attention to me.  This guy in the gym said that every time that he thought about staying in the bed and not dragging himself to the gym he thought about me and my hard work that I put in at the gym, and the fact that I constantly push myself to do more and to push through even when I don’t feel like it.  He said that I motivated him to push through and come to the gym even if he didn’t feel like it.  I was amazed and shocked because this was a guy who was relatively new to the gym and who I would’ve never known was paying attention to anything that I did.  As he was leaving out the door he said that you never know who might be watching so keep up the good work.  

Aside from feeling flattered I felt confused because I never saw myself as motivation for anyone but I suppose that just as there are those that might not realize how much they motivate me, I too, might be recognized by others.  As someone who is naturally an observer I notice people and their actions all the time.  I find myself continually motivated by these ambitious people (unknown to me personally) that I see striving to be successful in everything they do and who are determined to make their dreams a reality.  

I guess if I’m watching others it’s not so far fetched to think that someone could be watching me.  Hopefully someone is watching this blog, and my writing development through the internet world and recognizes that some day as well.  For whoever is watching (or should I say reading) this blog, I write articles on a multitude of topics, I edit manuscripts for a reasonable fee, I am perfectly fine with my blog being turned into a book, and I am always looking for new clients to work with.  Until tomorrow…Work hard and be diligent because you never know who might be watching you!    

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Back to Business

So now that it is the second day of the New Year everyone should already have their Christmas Tree taken down (or put out in case of those who actually like real trees), the decorations back in their storage space (only to be taken out next year), and the new calendar up with important dates already marked.  Hopefully another thing that everyone also has is their game plan in place for the 2012.  The holidays are over and now it is time to get back to the business of accomplishing the goals that you set for this year.  Whatever your goals are today is the time to begin working on them.  Take those plans that you began making in December of 2011 and begin acting on them as if your life depended on it, because it does.  I know that I’ve got a novel to finish up and a magazine that needs to be finished and put together by the end of January (preferably before the end) so I’ve got to get moving myself.  Until tomorrow…Get moving on those dreams, there’s no more time to waste! 

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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The Gift of Giving

“At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done.  We will be judged by ‘I was hungry and you gave me food to eat, I was naked and you clothed me, I was homeless and you took me in.  Hungry not only for bread — but hungry for love.  Naked not only for clothing — but naked for human dignity and respect.  Homeless not only for want of a room of bricks — but homeless because of rejection.”
~Mother Teresa 

When Christmas comes around every year we get so caught up in worrying about what gift we are going to get for which person and whether or not we will be able to get everything that the kids wrote down on their lists or dropped hints about way back around Halloween.  I admit that I am guilty of being determined to get every single little thing on my daughter’s list (knowing that I can’t possibly in good conscience get everything).  I admit that it is for the sheer joy of seeing her face light up as the gifts go under the tree and on Christmas morning when she thinks I’m a rock star because I actually made the attempt to get everything she wanted.  

Now I have explained to my daughter that Christmas is not in fact about getting gifts (as society has made it out to be) but I think that when she continually sees adds and cartoons and other children so focused on getting gifts that it’s still hard for her to understand what Christmas really means.  They say this is the season of giving but I’m not sure that whoever said that meant gifts of toys and all sorts of material possessions.  There is so much that we have to give to this world and our children then just the latest toys or electronics and video games.  

There are a lot of reasons that I would like to be wealthy but one of the main reasons for me is so that I can be in a position to help people who are struggling and need it the most.  I was watching the news this morning and there was a woman who talked about her foundation that she started to help the families of the wounded and deceased navy seals who died or were injured in the war inIraq.  All I could think of in watching this story was ‘I wish there was something that I could do to help’.  In fact I would love to be able to be someone else’s Christmas Angel for once.  

I got to thinking about all of the many different foundations out there put in place to help others and made a small list which I included below.  I think that everyone should compose a small list of what they would do to help if they could.  Maybe it will inspire someone out there who has forgotten what the true meaning of Christmas is to be reminded once again.  

  1. Make a Wish Foundation
  2. Local Homeless Shelter
  3. Habitat for Humanity
  4. UNICEF
  5. Locks of Love
  6. The People inHaiti
  7. The People in Japan
  8. St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital
  9. The International Child Art Foundation  (ICAF) 

These are just a few of the organizations that I have wanted to help in one way or another for quite some time now.  This gives me even more motivation to see my dreams through, so that I can firmly place myself in a position to be able to help others struggle just a little less so they can see their dreams become a reality and then hopefully they would one day be able to do the same for someone else.  What organizations would you place on your list?  Until tomorrow…Remember that we are all worth more than just the things that we possess.

Jimmetta Carpenter

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What’s The Worst That Could Happen?

“Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”
~Leon Joseph Suenens 

I am typically an overly cautious person who has to literally think of every single positive and negative before saying yes or no to anything, usually ignoring my first instincts.  I tend to talk myself out of wonderful opportunities and rationalize it with legitimate excuses (lack of money, or no time) that hold me back from doing a lot of things that I would love to do.  I have found myself wondering lately, what if I just said yes to every opportunity that came my way.  I mean what’s the worst that could really happen?  

Now I don’t mean literally to just anything because I’m not in my early twenties with no responsibilities and no one to be held accountable for.  I mean opportunities that I would normally find any reason that seems legitimate to say no to.  I think about the movie Jim Carey played in called Yes Man and even though he had some not so good experiences in saying yes to everything, he had some really good ones too, some life changing experiences.  I guess I will never know what it is I’m missing if I just keep finding an excuse to say no.  

So I think that I am going to challenge myself for the year 2012 to say Yes to any opportunity that comes my way (within reason of course).  I am not going to let what I don’t have stop me from exploring what it is I could have if I just said Yes.  Now I don’t know how effective this is going to be because I don’t think I have ever done anything without giving it an excessive amount of thought but I sure am going to try to live up to this challenge.  After all, what do I really have to lose?  Until tomorrow…What do you think would happen if you just said yes to your next opportunity? 

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Where Credit Is Due

“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”

~Mahatma Gandhi 

I am reminded every morning when I go to the gym to workout that I am a lot stronger than I think I am.  Each day when I do something else that I never thought that I could do or that I said that I would never even try, it reminds me that I sometimes don’t give myself enough credit.  A lot of us tend to do that in general during the course of our everyday lives.  We get it in our heads that we are only as good as the limits that we set for ourselves, not realizing that we often set the bar too low and don’t give ourselves nearly as much credit as we deserve.  

If we think about it, each time we reach an obstacle and find ourselves saying that we can’t handle anything else, not only do we surpass that obstacle but it builds us up stronger for the one that is sure to come after that.  They say that which doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger, and while sometimes I find myself wanting to throw a certain finger up at whoever started that phrase, I find it to be very true.  My struggles have not only made me stronger but made me more ambitious and determined.  I feel that with each road block I face during the course of my journey I am made to be hungrier and more driven to reach my destination.  

Someone at the gym told me that I have been coming to the gym lately with a new drive and as if I was on a mission for the year 2012.  I am on a mission.  I plan on setting that bar increasingly higher for myself and raising my own expectations right along with it.  I am strong enough to achieve anything I desire despite the struggles I have to face along the way.  I am going to stop counting myself out before I even make it to the starting line and start giving myself the credit that I deserve.  Until tomorrow…Ask yourself if you are giving yourself enough credit? 

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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Don’t Throw in the Towel Too Soon

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.”

~Richard L. Evans 

Did you ever wonder if you gave up on something that you wanted too soon?  Sometimes we hang in there so long that we start to get the feeling that maybe we just weren’t meant to achieve that goal or dream we long for.  We start to become doubtful and discouraged, and to put it bluntly, we get impatient.  We forget (at least I know I do) that there is not a specific time table on when your dreams can come true.  More importantly we forget that sometimes we have to put in our dues and struggle to get to the point of our destination.  We have to exhibit perseverance and not be too quick to throw in the towel.  Remember that if it is in your heart to accomplish your goals and you were given a purpose then it will all be worth the wait in the end.  Nothing that is worth having has ever come easy and with great struggles there are also even greater rewards.  Don’t give up on your dreams.  They are more than likely right around the corner and well within your grasp.  Until tomorrow…Don’t throw in the towel just yet!

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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No Shortcuts

We all seek something meaningful out of life.  We have a sense of purpose that is sometimes beyond all rationality.  And when it seems like it will take forever for us to reach that destination that we are striving to get to, we all sometimes wish that we could just wake up one day and be there, right where we feel we need to be in life.  Unfortunately life does not work that way.  Or maybe it’s fortunate for us that it doesn’t.  

I was watching my soap opera today (Young and the Restless) and something was said on there that really struck a chord with me.  What good is reaching your destination without having the experience of getting there?  What good is it, it means nothing, and you learn nothing?  I never thought of it like that.  

If I were to just wake up one day and have it all handed to me, everything that I want in this life, without having the struggle of actually getting to those proud and joyful moments, then would it mean as much?  Without all of the blood, sweat, and tears put into making my dreams come true, would they mean as much and would I work just as hard to hold onto them?  I can say that I would but I don’t know that.  

Sometimes it is the struggle of the journey that makes the end result worth every bit of hardship that you went through.  Sometimes there are no shortcuts in life, and I am discovering (though it took me a while to realize) that taking the long way to your destination can sometimes be the best thing you could ever do to satisfy your purpose.  Until tomorrow…Don’t always go looking for the shorter way around things.

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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If It’s What You Love To Do, Stay Hungry and Stay Foolish

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

~Steve Jobs 

When Steve Jobs died on October 5 he left behind so much more than just his extensive contribution to the technological world.  In my opinion, what’s worth far more than his Apple Company is the determination that it took for him to reach his level of success and the words that he expressed in his 2005 commencement speech at StanfordUniversity.  I must admit that I had not actually took the time to watch the speech until after his death but there was so much that I got out of those fifteen minutes.  One thing he said that stuck with me was to not let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.  

Another memorable thing that I took away from his speech was his last four words; Stay hungry, stay foolish.  It seemed to be words that he lived by until his dying day and I found these words to be both intriguing and inspiring.  When you stay hungry you never really lose sight of what is at stake for your dreams.  You stay focused and steady.  You stay driven and determined.  You never settle if you have not gotten to where it is you want to be.  When you allow yourself to stay foolish you give yourself permission to have the courage to do the things that everybody else might think of as stupid or crazy.  Those that remain foolish have the ability to ignore the logic that might be telling them that something will be too difficult or impossible to make happen.  

In the last few weeks I have been continually told, in so many words, that what I want for my life is not going to happen and that I am wasting my time with it.  I should just go make a career out of working behind a desk and be content with that because it’s a good living.  They say writing is not practical, writing will never make me rich or even provide enough money to live off, writing is a great hobby but it’s not realistically possible to make it, especially in the current economy.  Well I say to hell with anyone who tells me that doing what I love to do, what I was born to do, is a waste of my time.  It’s who I am and it’s all I’ve ever wanted to do. 

It’s not as if I just woke up a year or two ago and said hey, I think I want to be a writer now.  I have known since I was six years old that this was what my purpose in life was and I have never, in 25 years, wavered from that belief.  Honestly, at this point I’ve put in so much time and sacrificed so much in the effort of making this work that I can’t go back now.  Sure I’m not where I would like to be within my career at this point, nor where I thought I would be, but I know it’s coming because I know it’s meant for me. 

So many times I hear about or see people who have spent their lives doing something that is practical and might have garnered them success but it wasn’t what they wanted for themselves.  It wasn’t the way that they wanted to achieve their success and they weren’t very happy.  They spent their lives living up to others’ standards and other people’s ideas of normal and practical.  They lived a life, but it wasn’t theirs. 

I’ve already wasted too much of my limited time on this earth living the way someone else thought I should, doing what was practical all the while longing to follow my heart.  I am not going to leave this world feeling like I didn’t at least try to live the life I was meant to live.  As Steve Jobs also said in his brilliant speech, “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking that you have something to lose…”  What good is living if I am not going to go for it all, come hell or high water?  I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to really throw caution to the wind and just jump feet first without worrying what will go wrong.  I think that I’m going to start finding out.  I thank you Steve Jobs for being brave enough to Stay hungry and Stay foolish.  Until next time…Imagine all of what you can do if you were just a little more foolish and a lot less logical.  

Jimmetta Carpenter

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I Regret Not Being Fearless

“Being fearless isn’t being 100% unafraid; it’s being terrified, but you jump in anyway!”

~Taylor Swift 

I was watching an interview the other night on Lady GaGa and her rise to fame and her upbringing.  I was excited to watch this interview because while I am a fan of her music, I am an even greater fan of her business savvy and her work ethic.  She has certainly made a name for herself and her story didn’t start off that much different from other people that have a particular dream growing up.  Of course her upbringing was different in terms of the fact that she probably had a lot more things in the pros column than the cons but the struggle to achieve her dream was still there.  

What I love and can appreciate most about her is her bravery and her fearlessness.  She has never been and still isn’t afraid to do anything when it comes to accomplishing her dreams and she seems to jump head first into everything without ever really looking back.  Watching the interview I found myself wishing that I had that same fearlessness and bravery, both as a child growing up and especially now.  

So many times I had opportunities when I was younger to maybe go to some poetry event or open mic night and read some of my poetry or even sing (because I could actually sing a lot better when I was younger) but I was too afraid.  Afraid to be on stage in front a crowd full of people, afraid that they wouldn’t like my poetry or like my voice, afraid that I somehow would not be good enough and that maybe the talent that I thought I had was all made up in my head and that no one else would share the same thought.  I wasted so much time on all of the cons and I missed out on all of the pros, all because I wasn’t fearless enough.  

I guess it’s too late to wonder what could’ve and might’ve been if I had just been brave enough to jump head first into any number of the things that I wanted to do.  The only thing left to do now is strive to be brave and fearless from this point on.  After watching the interview I was wondering aloud to my best friend, was it just simply too late for me to do the things that I really wanted.  I mean I’m 31 now and I’m not getting any younger and my dreams aren’t becoming any more attainable as time goes by.  She told me (being the voice of reason that she always seems to be) that it’s never too late as long as I still have the ability and the passion to do those things that I want to do.  

That voice of fear was in my ear yet again but this time I don’t plan on feeding into it.  I’ve wasted too much time already and now it’s time for me to be brave, and yes even fearless.  So how brave and fearless are you willing to be for your dreams?  Until next time…Be brave, don’t give yourself anything else to regret!

 

Jimmetta Carpenter

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